Now it is time for a little segment I like to call “Life Lessons”.
I have not done a life lessons post in a long time (I used to do them on facebook – not on my own blog, so this is the first official one) and well it has been a crazy, crazy year for me. Most of it has been very dark but I have finally found the light again. So instead of just giving out one life lesson, I have an entire list for you today!
1. Know the truth and stick to it, no matter what! – Realize, no matter how much evidence you show someone, many people will refuse to see it. This is due to their own biases, viewpoints, and ignorances. Don’t let it make you question yourself, your reality, or the truth. The Truth is the Truth.
2. Never apologize. – Never apologize for being yourself or for someone else’s mistakes, lies, etc.
3. Always apologize! – When you are wrong, we are all human and we do make mistakes. A simple apology to someone can go a long way. It’s called being humble.
4. Pick and choose your friends wisely. – Don’t feed the trolls! If someone can’t handle you or the things you are saying and constantly rips you down, delete them and block them (on social media). If this happens to you in your real life, walk away.
5. Have an Ego! – An “ego” is a personality trait that everyone has. If you lack ego it means you have no self-esteem. Love yourself. You are perfect, just the way you are! If anyone attacks your ego remember they are projecting. They are having issues with their own self-confidence. They are jealous that they themselves lack ego. It simpler terms, you have something that they don’t.
6. Keep Work and Play separate! – I can’t stress this enough! All my models from this day forward will sign a release form and a “model” is anyone standing in front of my camera for any reason. Whether I pay you to model, you pay me for photos, or we’re just doing it for trade the answer is you will sign a release form. Model release forms are not required, but they sure as hell make life a lot easier. Work and play can overlap, but make sure the business side of work is taken care of first!
7. Own It! – If you like something, then like it! If you love something, then love it! If something belongs to you, you own it! To build more off of the release form concept, realize any art you create is YOUR property, not the person in the photo or the person who likes the person in the photo. No one has ownership over the light that is reflecting off of them and into your camera. You captured the light and created something completely separate from them (a photograph) and as a photographer or artist, you OWN IT!
8. Ask for what you want. – If you like something, ask for it. If you want something, ask for it! If you need something, ASK FOR IT! Be willing to accept “no” for an answer but you can never get a “yes” as an answer until you ASK FOR IT!
9. Let the Police handle it. – If despite all your efforts someone threatens you or you feel like you are in danger tell the Police! Even if they don’t do anything about it, it is at least on record and if god forbid something awful does happen they will at least have a really good lead. However, you should always be prepared to defend yourself because the police can only respond to things that have already happened and that is why their job is incredibly hard and dangerous. (A big THANK YOU to all those who serve in Law Enforcement.)
10. Remember to laugh. – “Does anyone remember laughter?” – Led Zeppelin from the song “Stairway to Heaven”. Life is short and laughing is one of the most important human emotions. Anything can be funny and for some people, it is never “too soon”. If their comedy is offensive to you, that is okay! Pick somebody else but the people who do think it is funny still need to laugh. So, if you’ve learned anything from my ignorance this past year, just remember to laugh!
That’s all for this segment of Life Lessons! I hope to see you all soon!
– Justin Adams